Wraith/Philosophy
I have a simple rule for PLAYERS who wish to make characters in my sphere: don’t be a jerk. We play these games to have fun and explore concepts and themes impossible to do in real life. Nothing ruins, or can undermine, this experience quicker than someone getting angry or upset OOC over another character’s IC actions.
It’s perfectly understandable, and even human nature, to get mad OOC if a long-time scheme, or plan in the making gets thwarted. What’s not acceptable is to get OOC abusive with the player of the character responsible or try and turn other players against them. Now if your character finds out who it was who screwed them over IC, then of course they are free to retaliate in any IC fashion they wish.
Likewise, it is equally unacceptable to purse IC courses of action solely to upset, or anger, another player OOC, or because of OOC information. I consider all to be griefing and I take a dim view to the use of these tactics in gaming of any stripe. Please be polite and respectful when dealing with other players OOC. Always keep in mind that other players have plans, goals and agendas of their own, and that they might not have known their actions would impact you. Similarly, your actions could have been causing them IC problems that needed to be solved. A lot of times other people aren’t “out to get you,” or hate you OOC even if it may superficially seem that way.